成语 (Idiom):以德报怨 (Respond Resentments with Virtues)
意思(Meaning):
德:好的品行;道德;恩惠。报:传达,告知;回答。怨:仇恨;不满意;责备。
有两种解释:
1. 有人对我们有仇恨或不满意,有人责备我们的过错;处理的方法是:
- 用恩惠来回答仇恨
- 用好的品行来回答不满意
- 用道德来回答责备
简单的说是以'德'的行为来应对‘怨‘,如此,可以避免再听到同样的怨言。
2. 现今不少词典都做这解释:不记别人的仇,反而给他好处。
There are two interpretations:
1. When people confronted us with hatred or dissatisfaction or blame, handle it as below:
- using grace to handle hatred
- reply dissatisfaction with manner or good behaviour
- using virtue to handle blames
By doing these, one could avoid from hearing the same grudges, resentment or grievances.
例如(An example):
常常以德报怨的人,不会常有仇恨伴身边,也会减少许多不满意和责备。
以德报怨的行为,能够减少许多不满意和责备,也可避免碰到仇恨的行为。
The practice of '以德报怨', could reduce dissatisfaction and blames from other people, and likely not have to face with hatred behaviour.
典故(Classical Literature):
《论语·宪问》:“或曰:‘以德报怨何如?’子曰:‘何以报德?以直报怨,以德报德。’”